Benci atau Cinta?

Bismillah....

It's Valentine's Day! Sambil mengunyah cekelat Hershey's [Milk Chocolate with Almonds' flavored], aku gigihkan diri nak posting something dengan theme of love and hate.

I don't celebrate Valentine's day, sabar yek, jangan sentap nak pangkah jek. Sebab post ini bukan kerana hari ini jek. Tapi sebab aku realized something about love, something bout hate/hatred. And I really have the urge nak share this. Harap jangan cepat melatah, aku bukan nak posting bersempena apa2 events pon. Just because....

What is LOVE? the definition? maknanya? is it a noun? is it a verb? is it an adjective? or is it all?
My definition of LOVE is simple. Love is something that give me the strength to fight for and never let it go away ! dalam bahasa kasarnya, cinta/sayang/kasih tu something yang kita tak senang2 nak give up. Biasa kita dengar, cinta itu is to let it go and if it is really for you then it will come back to u; itu BULLSHIT!!!!

What is HATE?
My definition of hate is that you won't regret if you let go of someone and never had the                 dream to get him/her back.

Mengarut kan? Yes, life is mengarut. To live is nonsense, to die is even worse! SHould I care what people think of me doing things I wanna do to make me happy? Should you care about people who don't worth to be in your life and to die for?

So, what is the most important thing then to care about?
It's your happiness! Because, even you listened to everyone's opinions and comments or even worse insults about you running your life the way you did; It's you who will live your life in the end of the day. It's you who will take the burden! No one I bet will stay and help you to get throught all the bullshit things, your life's waves and your life's tragedies!

Before you love others, try your best to love yourself first; because once no one is there to love you, you at least have you to love you!

So, I guess, being independent is not an easy task. Loving yourself is part of the rules of being independent. Yes, if you ask people who are happily in love or in a good relationship, they won't have the ability to tell the worst scenarios in relationship; but asking people who are deeply injured in relationships, you might get the right and real answers.

Judging people from what you feel, what you see is not  a good way to do. You might see only the surface of their lives, but do you know how they survived those kind of lives?

You might think marrying or engaging to the person with the same age or slightly older or younger from you is the greatest thing to do in YOUR life!
For some people [like ME!], marrying people with so much gaps of age is better for them; since I love to boss around and I can't survive a day with a spouse who is under my thumb! I need a MAN to tame my inner beast!

You might have deluded that people who got married with older guys were doing so because they are gold-diggers, searching for substitute love [no father since childhood!] or maybe they just simply have NO CHOICE!

Just because you came from an incomplete family, with no father who took care fully of you and your siblings, and some women took your father away from your MOM, it doesn't mean that the woman with much OLDER guy is a BAD WOMAN/ husband-thief!

Get a life! Because the world is not ONLY revolved around YOU. Millions of people are living on this very old earth too.

So, that's all! XOXO


 p/s: Spread love not hatred!